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June 29, 2012


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Hi! I love that you also share some philosophies of yoga.. :)

Diane Cesa DeGiorgio

Thanks Roshani! I love, love, love the example you offer here. Thank you so much for sharing!

Roshani Adhikary

I've made assumptions more times than I'd like to admit, but thankfully they've never caused any measurable harm. I remember in undergrad during a Linguistics class, a classmate of mine had a sad epiphany. We learned that men and women, generally, communicate very differently. According to our professor, men are much more direct (example: what time is it?) while women tend to assume and are more indirect (example: i wonder what the time is/ do you have your watch on?) both genders are essentially asking the time, but with women there is an indirectness that comes from societal pressures of never being too much of an inconvenience.
Apparently, my classmate and her then ex-husband fought a lot over their language... the husband complained the wife assumed too much and she thought he was trying to be difficult by purposefully acting like he didn't understand questions she was implying, indirectly. When this classmate discovered it was a gender-difference in styles of communication, she was deeply saddened and it always made me think, "If I ever get married, I will remember to be direct, always."
Now that I am, I still make a conscious effort not to assume things (for example if my husband says, "No, I don't want seconds," I have to consciously remind myself that he genuinely means that, not that he is indirectly implying that I shouldn't have seconds). Reading this blog was a great reminder of always keeping in mind that not all of us are on the same page. Thanks for adding the Yoga-based practice at the end, it's a nice way to incorporate Yoga as a practical solution :)

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